If it takes 10 thousand hours to master anything, after sleep: one can master approximately 50 items, including relationships of merit, before likely death.
Let us assume no death tomorrow (which we best not, but are gonna…), & further assume a contemplative focus brought to bear on only every other moment, which is generous, with 5 sets spent in revelry or misspent on lost endeavors. That leaves 20 items.
5~ or more for family. ~1 for standard schooling. ~1 for guitar or something similar. ~1 or more for higher study depending on level of specialty. ~1 to become practiced at your work x 5 for life time career changes.
That leaves 11 opportunities to master honest relationships of merit, in a LIFETIME, at the high end; & only 7 opportunities otherwise. & it is further requisite that the people you invest in are matching one’s own contemplative investment focus on said friendship.
Even if you find out relatively early on that they are not – you do not get that time back. & every moment you let pass without such a dynamic unfolding equates to having less chance again of ever achieving; just by virtue of running out of time.
& this assumes one is never sick a single day, such that attention falters. & that none of the 7 opportunities over your life, that you are actively working with, ever die.
It also presumes you are actively onto it at age “0”: which is possibly demanding – even for me – despite it being so important a task.
In any event; be there in existence a sole sober agent, of reason & sound wits, that dare say unto me verily that the active social contract pursuit is an incorrect position from which to begin to explore the nature of the other?
Or that following norms into a wedding, that takes 10 years to get out of & adds a child ineptly planned for, is ever correct?
Or assuming one’s base print for anything is correct? Best they not each be challenged quickly! Is following any norm an investment before they have been questioned & explored to satisfaction?
Agents have an intense desire to feel they have selected things for themselves, without influence; never have I seen someone scratch their head & say “hmm. Yep, that seems right-er than what I was doing” in under a 3 year time-frame.
But there is so little time. Thus, targeting allies must be done carefully. Blocks must either be activated immediately for confrontation, or avoided entirely & approached subaurally.
Life requires reflective & active thought if one is to achieve, by one’s own standards. But most refuse to recognize, what their behaviors will readily announce, said standards actually already are.
Indeed, life requires reflective & active thought if one is to achieve. & this is neither manipulative nor a “bad” thing for one to be consistently engaged in. Rather; any who fall coming from a position less thoughtful & active deserve the salt from every tear: because, truly, they did not ever even try.
J(J)R (2014)
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J(J)R (2014) C&C. The 50 Mastery Limit J(j)R. 7.(12) . Ed8.
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